When I went to the Socrates Cafe meeting with my father, in January, the topic was Quality of Life. My father was jotting down notes before he spoke and I jotted down for letters, L O V E. My answer was simple. To me no matter where you are, what you have, if you are truly loved and truly love, you have everything you need. I am a student of A Course in Miracles. The introduction states this:
This is a course in miracles. It is a required course. Only the time you take it is voluntary. Free will does not mean that you can establish the curriculum. It means only that you can elect what you want to take at a given time. The course does not aim at teaching the meaning of love, for that is beyond what can be taught. It does aim, however, at removing the blocks to the awareness of love’s presence, which is your natural inheritance. The opposite of love is fear, but what is all-encompassing can have no opposite.
The Course can therefore be summed up very simply in this way
nothing real can be threatened
nothing unreal exists
Herein lies the peace of God
As a student, I am taught the only answer is love. Everything else is just an illusion. Fear is an illusion. To be happy and to have quality of life is to ultimately be happy.
qual·i·ty of life
the standard of health, comfort, and happiness experienced by an individual or group.
“the things that are needed for a good quality of life”
Being in this meeting, listening to everyone talk, one thing became obvious, everyone’s definition of Quality of Life is different.
Some people feel quality of life is defined by how much money you have, or how many “toys” you can buy. Some people feel that it’s defined by your work accomplishments. Your personal achievements. Your personal gratification. Education, spirituality, family, work, life all or none, what defines your quality of life?
I have multiple sclerosis. I deal everyday with challenges and frustrations. Everyday I’m faced with symptoms that never go away. I get no reprieve, no break. So where is my quality of life? Love is my quality of life? Love is my spirituality, and spirituality is my quality of life. No I can’t go and do things that others my age can. I can’t run, stroll in a park, browse through a museum, hike up a mountain, parasail, bike ride throughout my neighborhood or take a spin class. I can’t afford to buy a Porsche and even if I could probably couldn’t drive it for long anyway. I don’t work anymore. None of those things define quality of life for me. My family, friends, dogs and spiritual path define my quality of life. The unconditional love I feel from all of it and the unconditional love I give to all of it. That to me makes for a good life I love to love others, to give and to help. It is who I am and who I want to be. That is my definition.
So what is yours?