The second date or third or fourth or fifth

The second date or third or fourth or fifth

Second dates are trickier. They ask the same questions as on the first date, looking for inconsistencies.
Second dates are trickier. They ask the same questions as on the first date, looking for inconsistencies.

So tonight is our second date. However if you would ask him and myself we would both say it’s probably more like our fourth or fifth. Being the fact that the first date was nine hours we sat through the lunch crowd the dinner crowd the snack crowd and outside for a while  we feel that it really can’t count as only one. So all the jitters of those first couple of dates that you have are really gone for both of us. Well mostly. I might still have a jitter or two. Actually he wasn’t even nervous the first one and I was only slightly nervous. Plus we talked on the phone every day since for easily an hour plus. So we will still say technically it’s the second day but I would say realistically it’s not.

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Now I’ve been single a little longer than he has and he actually had another date this week. He was very honest and he told me it was already in motion before he met me.  My responsive was “that’s OK she won’t be as good as me.” He followed through with this date which I thought was very admirable first that he told me and second that he didn’t want to cancel on somebody. However as soon as the date was over I got a call to tell me it wasn’t good.  I’m not sure because it never happened to me until now but when you have a nine hour date with someone connecting like that I can’t imagine it happening again two days later with somebody else. Another day later he hid his match.com profile.

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I had already made my profile on POF hidden but waited on match.  I did it when he said he did.  It’s another crazy aspect to online dating when to take down a profile.   I imagine it’s different as you get older I think at my age we kind of know what we’re are looking for we aren’t looking for more kids it’s a different dating pool. When you’re younger most people are still dating even when they’re in relationships so their profiles don’t come down probably quite as quick.  I have to say when I first was married that online dating thing didn’t exist and I’m really happy. It’s hard enough now and I’m in a totally different ballgame but to be young and have to go through it like my daughter might must be very very difficult.

"Of course I think a lot of you, Maureen, but this is only our second date."
“Of course I think a lot of you, Maureen, but this is only our second date.”

 My age  moves a little differently. I think we just know more of what we want more of what we don’t want and kind a dive much easier. My  unfortunate problem is I’ve always dived into relationships . This time where I know I want to see where it goes with this gentleman, I do want to take it a little slower walk into the water as opposed to diving in headfirst. Pretty heavy for the first week of knowing someone.  The really nice thing is he hears it agrees with it and understands it. The interest is there on both sides and we want to see how it grows. We want to develop a relationship. We both have a lot of similarities  and I’m really excited by it. So tonight is date number two but it really does feel like it’s  number four or five or six or seven and I’m looking forward to having a really nice evening.

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